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Catholic Mangate – Brent Stubbs via Ignitum Today

“There are men out there. There are. They realize that the fulfillment of their vocation of marriage terminates in you. Wait for that one. Some people think men should not “need” you, but that is wrong. Adam needed Eve. He was incomplete because his vocational calling was not yet realized. So too, the GCM called to marriage. Don’t settle for a boy, I agree, but also don’t settle for some dude who’s just “not that into you”.”

Bingo!

*note: in quote above: GCM = Good Catholic Man

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Men’s Real Vocations Are Not Their Careers

I’m still working on the 5th and final part of the Lenten quote series, but I just had to link this piece by Jennifer Fulwiler. I think it’s great to pursue big career dreams and goals, but when a man lies on his deathbed, I don’t think any real man has ever, or will ever say, “I wish I spent less time with my wife and kids.” Or, “I wish I spent more time slaving away at the office.” Or for parish priests, “I wish I spent less time saying Mass, administering the Sacraments, and teaching the faith and more time balancing parish budgets and doing administrative work for the parish.” Our careers are a part of who we are, but they can never define the entirety of our identities.

Memento Mori = perspective 🙂

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Is Being Single a Failure?.

Exactly the reminder I needed right now. This vocation journey has had some amazing highs and humbling lows, and so far I’m not quite sure where it’s going most of the time, but it’s good to know that even when the time comes for this gift to be fully revealed to me (and I accept it), it’s not the end goal, but a new phase in the pursuit of holiness, in the pursuit of heaven 🙂

P.S. If you didn’t actually click the link to read the article, the answer to the title is no (at least I think so!) 😛 haha, now go read it!

A reflection on seeking one’s vocation

Ok…still lagging on the Lenten practice post, but I have been drafting it, I promise!

Anyways, people in my life are aware to a varying extent (read: not at all to fairly knowledgeable) of my search for my vocation. The idea of a vocation is not very well understood, so here’s a definition from Dictionary.com:

vo·ca·tion [voh-key-shuhn] – noun

1. a particular occupation, business, or profession; calling.

2. a strong impulse or inclination to follow a particular activity or career.

3. a divine call to God’s service or to the Christian life.

4. a function or station in life to which one is called by God: the religious vocation; the vocation of marriage.

The story of my on-going vocation search is a winding one, best left for another post (or two, or three…or more?), but for the purpose of this post, it is sufficient to say that my search has been one of joy and excitement and growth in my desire to know, love, and serve God in this life and be with Him forever in the next. At other times (for example, lately), I feel a sense of tension, disappointment, confusion, even spiritual desolation.

At times like these, I revisit this reflection from Blessed John Cardinal Newman that I ran into a while ago and copied down into my travel notebook. If you’ve ever felt a sense of tension over what you’re doing with your life, where you’re going…or to what God is calling you, I hope you find this as helpful as I do:

“God has created me to do Him some definite service. He has committed some work to me which He has not committed to another. I have my mission. I may never know it in this life, but I shall be told it in the next. I am a link in the chain, a bond of connection between persons. He has not created me for naught. I shall do good; I shall do His work. I shall be an angel of peace, a preacher of truth in my own place, while not intending it if I do but keep His Commandments. Therefore, I will trust Him; whatever I am, I can never be thrown away. If I am in sickness, my sickness may serve Him; in perplexity, my perplexity may serve Him; if I am in sorrow, my sorrow may serve Him. He does nothing in vain. He knows what He is about. He may take away friends. He may throw me among strangers. He may make me feel desolate, make my spirits sink, hide my future from me. Still, He knows what He is about.”